Personal growth

  • 3 Ways to Master Consistency to Get You Results

    Get the hang of consistency in three ways for great results.

    If there is anything that I have learned over the past few months, it’s that being consistent is easier said than done + consistency will get you results, not determination. You see, our behaviours are very much driven by our habits, or lack thereof. And our habits are almost ingrained in our subconscious, which makes them very difficult to change.

    Instead of us leading our habits, quite often our habits determine the course of our lives. Especially if we do not intentionally and CONSISTENTLY work on them.

    So here are three ways I am doing to keep consistent in my life to get the results that I want to see:

    The “IF I want ….. THEN I need to do ….. ” exercise

    I am a big believer in setting goals, and it’s all good to have them as ambitious as possible. However, if you don’t honestly put down the habits that you need to do consistently to even get close to achieving these goals, then the whole exercise is just a wish list exercise.

    So for every goal I set, I ask myself: What do I need to do If I want to achieve this goal? I recently found out about the “IF…THEN…” exercise from Rachel Hollis’s next 90 day challenge. I think it is an excellent way of being realistic with your goals and values. And assessing whether you really want something and are willing to put in the effort every single day to get what you want in life.

    To make it simple, I have noted down one “IF… THEN…” statement for each of my key goals. This makes it way easier to track whether I am living up to my resolutions, than trying to start practicing a million new things all at once.

    Get the hang of consistency in three ways for great results.

    FEELINGS ASIDE, IT NEEDS TO GET DONE!

    Feelings will always play with your mind. Whenever I don’t feel like doing something that I know I need to do consistently, that’s exactly the time when I need to do it.

    If you wait to do something only when you feel like doing it, you will almost always have a reason not to do it. I know we are not machines, but we are in control of what we do daily. And the results in our lives are a sum of our daily habits. #foodforthought

    DAILY HABIT TRACKER

    I recently shared a post with all the productivity apps that I use. One of the apps, Strides, helps me to do daily logs of whether I have completed a habit or not. There are 3 habits that I have committed to doing every single day. It is amazing how this app keeps me accountable for my commitment. It sends me reminders to complete a habit. The app even tracks the length of a “streak” ( how many days I have consistently done the habit).

    You can try it too, but if you would rather have a worksheet which you can write on everyday to log your habits, then subscribe to my email list below, and your girl will sort you out with one soon!

    BONUS: DON’T COMMIT TO SOMETHING YOU CANNOT DO CONSISTENTLY FOR A MONTH

    Saying no is something that I have come to realize is a necessary skill to thrive in this world! There are so many requests, demands, expectations from all around us. And honestly, there are only 24 hours in a day to get things done. So what do I say if I cannot commit to doing something consistently for at least 1 month? NO! Simply just say NO, especially if it is something that does not fit into your bigger picture.

    What do you do to make sure you keep showing up consistently to get the results that you want to see in your life?

    Remember: determination will get you started, but successful people are consistent, and consistency is what will get you results.

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  • Three simple things you can do to stay on top of your goal plan: mid-year reset

    Here are some tips to help you stay on top pf your goal plan!!.

    Can you believe that we are almost half-way through one of the most unpredictable years of the 21st century? I can’t to be honest, and while it feels like we can kiss goodbye to everything we had planned for this year, all is not lost. We can still do what is in our control to keep on track with our goal plans. Even if we may end up revising and refining them. Today, I am sharing three simple things you can do to stay on top of your goal plan.

    I see my goal plan as a roadmap to where I want to be in the next 5-10 years. But things may change every now and then. I am not an advocate of sticking to a goal plan if circumstances or situations no longer make the original plan a viable one. We are also not static creatures, and so our values and interests may change as life goes along. This is why a mid-year review is important.

    So I take a few days before half-year, and spend an hour on these three things

    1. Review my time spend

    Reviewing your goals is important, but reviewing what you actually did with the time that you had will be an indicator of how focused you were.

    I go through my calendar and past to-do lists, and use this information to do a high-level assessment of what and with whom I spent my time. I then assess whether the activities I had scheduled were serving their purpose in achieving my goals or not. Check out this post to see the exact apps I use to track my productivity.

    The truth is, a lot of the time we spend may not be serving our end. However, a balance between being selfless and being selfish is required.

    2. Review my goals

    I find that reviewing my goals before mid-year is a good way of setting the pace before things get hectic. And the hustle of the second part of the year begins. I take this time to slow down, remember my WHY, and figure out if the goals that I had set out at the start of the year are still;

    • Achievable
    • Relevant
    • Timely (for the initial deadline)

    Check out this post where Makyla talks about finding the inspiration behind your goals, to keep you fueled up!

    I also use this time to review how well I have performed. Sometimes an external perspective is needed. This is where my coach/mentor comes in to give me honest (and sometimes brutal) feedback. This way, I am able to better know and understand my improvement areas and work towards achieving my goal plan with these improvement areas in mind.

    The most important part of this exercise is checking that my goals remain relevant to my bigger picture. And that I still have a valid reason to pursue them.

    We don’t realize how much events, circumstances and situations shape the way we think.

    Here are some tips to help you stay on top pf your goal plan!!

    3. Reward, reprioritize and get moving

    Whether a goal I had set remains relevant or not, I always reward myself for any achievements made. This keeps me motivated and serves as a reminder that I am capable of doing whatever I put my mind to achieving.

    In conclusion,

    Sometimes, not everything can be achieved in the remaining half of the year, and this is where prioritizing comes in handy.

    To stay on top of my goals, I choose the 5 most important goals at the time and laser focus on getting them done as soon as possible. Once I have completed them, I can then attempt to start working on anything else that I had planned to achieve for the year. Almost always, I end up bumping things to the next year, but it is better than having a million things to do and achieving none.

    What do you do to stay on top of your goals throughout the year?

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  • 5 Free Productivity Apps to keep you on track!

    These are the 5 productivity apps I use to keep on track with my goals as a busy mom, mumpreneur. thisisrebeccakay.com

    I am sure you can relate to the busyness of life, especially if you are working a full time job and trying to keep your side hustles up and running. As a business owner, mom and professional, I am always looking for ways to make the most of the limited time that I have. That is why productivity apps that keep me on track with my goals and plans are a must-have. Over the past few months, I have narrowed down to 5 productivity apps which I use almost on a daily basis, but definitely at least every other day to keep on track with my goals.

    Here they are:

    1. TO DOIST

    I love the simplicity of this app. Instead of having my to-do lists on paper, on my office desk sticky notes and on my iPhone notes app, I put everything into this app, and assign a deadline and a priority level to each action that I need to do.

    You can also create different “projects” so that you can split your actions between different areas of your life, e.g. work to-do’s, home to do’s, business to do’s.

    This productivity app also keeps me accountable by emailing me reminders of upcoming tasks and overdue items. I can also sync the app with a plug-in that is downloadable on any microsoft computer, so even when I am on my laptop and remember that I need to do something, I don’t need to reach out for my phone to take note of it on the app!

    The best thing? Most of its features are free!

    5 Free productivity apps to keep you on track with your goals and tasks

    2. NOTION

    Notion has become my second love, next to madeira cake, my favourite :-). Think about a mix between Slack/Trello and Evernote, that’s what you get with Notion.

    I also use Notion as a database for my upcoming content on all my social media channels. When I come up with new ideas for existing or new content, all I do is note them down in Notion for looking at later on.

    You can create just about anything on Notion, attach external files, assign tasks to people like you would do in a project management system, and even create calendars based on the timelines for each item in your database.

    The app has a desktop version which can be downloaded from their website, and best thing is you can sync across devices without having to pay for the premium version.

    Another thing I love about this app is how visual it is. You can view your database in so many different ways, by timeline, by due date, by customised categories…. It can be quite a powerful app when used correctly.

    3. STRIDES

    After reading “The power of habit”, I have been so much more intentional about listing down the habits that I want to cultivate, as well as the habits that I want to stop doing.

    Strides has helped me to keep on track with these habits, but it can be used for goal tracking, target tracking, and even assessing project milestones.

    You might need to upgrade to the premium version to get all the benefits, but

    Image credits: Stridesapp.com

    Check out this post where I talk about the importance of habit tracking in keeping an organised life.

    4. TOGGL

    If you have ever worked in a consulting role or firm, then you know the importance of tracking time on each and every task that you do. I use Toggl to keep

    • accountable to the tasks that I need to complete for the day
    • on track with completing tasks in the time that I have allocated for them

    This in turn helps me to be more efficient in doing what I need to do, and most importantly, I get to have enough time for my family and kids all in one day without being bogged down by work the whole day.

    5. APPLE NOTES

    Sometimes you just need a simple note taking app to scribble down anything you are thinking of, in a whim. When I am pressed for time, I use my iPhone notes app to take note of things, and then transfer them to any of the other 4 apps if necessary.

    The recent upgrade now includes the ability to use bullet points and create tables to make your notes look more organised and structured.

    I am curious to know which productivity apps you use to keep on track with your goals and plans, and whether they are living up to their promises? Share in the comments section below.

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  • How to keep accountable to your goal plan

    Creating a goal tracking system is critical in tracking and updating your goal plan for busy moms

    Happy new month! I hope you are keeping safe wherever you are right now. A new month always feels to me like a reset button, a chance to reflect, refresh and renew my focus on my goal plan.

    I know that this is not the easiest time to think about goals, and plans with all the uncertainty about how the next few days, months and even year will turn out to be. While watching the latest episode of Moneyheist seems to be the answer to your problems right now, the world will still be waiting for us to conquer it after this pandemic is over…

    • Bills still have to be paid
    • Responsibilities still have to be met
    • Work from home will not last forever, and
    • The world as we know it will never be the same

    So while you still have the extra time to think about things, this might just be the perfect time to reflect on what you have achieved in the first 4 months of the year against your plans, and renew or refresh your short-term and long-term goal strategy.

    How to track and keep accountable to your goal plan. thisisrebeccakay.com

    These are a few things that you can do to look forward to this goal plan exercise, and make it easier to keep accountable to the goals that you committed to achieving this year:

    REMEMBER YOUR WHY

    Remembering why you made the commitment in the first place always helps in keeping focused to your goal plan. It’s so easy to get into a rut, or get so busy with the everyday hustle that you forget about the big picture and where you are going in your life.

    If you can confidently say “I am not doing X because it is not a priority”, then you probably don’t have a strong WHY, and you need to remove it from your goal plan or get a strong reason for pursuing it.

    ITS ALL ABOUT MINDSET

    I am a strong believer in positive thinking and affirmations. My favorite quote by Henry Ford says “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, either way you are right”.

    You are the only one who is holding yourself back. Feed your mind with positive thoughts and keep visualizing your goal plans, and watch how powerful this will be, in turning your thoughts into physical actions that you take everyday to reach your goals.

    CREATE A WORKABLE SYSTEM

    I have come to realise that it’s not only children who thrive on routines. Adults also thrive on routines. I have created a system to note down and keep track of my long-term and short-term goals, the actions that I need to complete for each goal and the date by when I need to have completed each action.

    I use a combination of software apps and my own goal planner to keep my goals organised and easy to access, track, change and update. More on this to come this month!

    REVIEW YOUR GOALS REGULARLY

    I have a copy of my goals on my vision board in my bedroom, and in my handbag. This makes it almost impossible for a day to pass without me coming across my goals. I would strongly advocate for a vision board, as it helps you to not only remember your why, but to create pictures in your mind that will fuel a positive mindset that you need to reach these goals.

    BREAK YOUR GOALS DOWN INTO WORKABLE ACTIONS

    A goal is just a wish if it doesn’t have an actionable plan. I like to break down my goals into action plans that I can turn into daily habits and routines. Check out my post here where I talk about the power of positive habits and routines.

    YOU GOT THIS!

    Remember that you are the master of your destiny, and only you truly have what it takes to get to where you want to be. But there is no easy way to getting there. No succesful person is succesful by chance, it took years of hard work, focus and GOAL SETTING & ACCOUNTABILITY to get there.

    Next week, I will come back with a post showing exactly how I used my goal planning system to keep track of my financial plans for Q1 2020.

    What are your “non-negotiables” when it comes to keeping focused and staying accountable to your goals?

    A goal without a plan is just a wish - goal plans this is rebecca kay

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  • 10 Books that are keeping me inspired this world book day!

    Rebecca Kay reading an inspiring book during postpartum journey - Thrive by Ariana Huffington. World Book Day 2020

    Happy world book day! With lock-down still a reality for more than half the population in the world, chances are that you are still at home. Keeping a positive mind, and keeping yourself busy is important if you want to keep the blues away. I have had a few low moments in the past few weeks, having given birth and not being able to share my new bundles of joy with my family and friends.

    This is where book reading has helped me in keeping my mental health in a good space.

    I have therefore purposely carved out 20 minutes of my day each day to read a book on my Kindle or listen on Audibles. Reading on my iPhone just makes it easier to get distracted, so kindly or the actual hard copy of the book has kept me focussed on meeting my daily reading target.

    *If you missed it, check out my post here on how I create and maintain positive habits*

    My book list for the year is a combination of classic books that I have read before, as well as new books that focus on positive mindset, productivity or building wealth. I am not a fiction lover, I get my dose of fiction from Netflix 🙂 So you will see that the books on my list are all non-fiction and books with lessons that you can apply practically in your daily living.

    In conclusion,

    If you find any of these topics interesting, then download my recommended book list to get the low-down on why I love these books and why you need to read them too!

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    What are your favourite reads of all time?

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